Saturday, December 27, 2008
Friday, December 26, 2008
Now Im a bit uneasy about going. I love my mom to death, but I know how she is. Yes she knows Im remarried and all that and she's good about it. But I could almost hear the comments already about the whole birthday thing, the way Im dressing (boy can't wait to hear what she says when she sees I wear niqab), and that Im becoming extreme. I can hear it 400 miles away. I guess my best bet is to stay outta the house for as long as possible. It's only a week right?! But its gonna seem like a lifetime. I just don't like dealing with my family. Its one of the reasons I left in the first place. Im happy to see my mom but I know there's gonna be a lot of tension and the endless cycle of why you are doing this and why you are doing that, that I just don't wanna deal with right now. We love are parents but sometimes they can give you a headache to. WE are suppose to love them and respect them, which I do, but I don't agree with a lot the things she says and does. May Allah bless her and guide her to what is right.
Thursday, December 25, 2008
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Monday, December 22, 2008
Saturday, December 20, 2008
Also since I bought a few more to add to the one I had. I have 2 flip styles, one single layer, and a 2-layer flip style. I actually like the 1-layer style. I think it suits me best. I'm actually surprise that I bought a Velcro band niqab and it fits my big head-lol. The only thing I don't like about it is that you need to be careful when your putting it on because the Velcro can stick to your hijab and could mess it up, depending on the material.
I went out yesterday and I actually didn't get any weird stares. People were actually friendly. The cashier at the supermarket smiled at me and said have a good day. Maybe people are just used to seeing it nowadays. They weren't fearful at all. Thats a good thing I guess. We'll see what happens, but regardless, Im not taking it off this time around. My niqab is here to stay lol. I never knew why I took it off to begin with. I guess I cared more of what other people thought than what I wanted. Now screw what anyone thinks. If you don't like it you can kick rocks.
Twenty-two years sounds like a long time, but time has flew by so quickly. A lot has changed within the past year. This day last year I was married to my first husband, 2 months pregnant, couldn't stand anything lol, and learning more about my deen. I was a bit naive back then, but I guess we all go thru it. Im just grateful that Im able to see another year and to be who I am. The year before last on this day, I remember clearly. I had to be to wrok at 6am. Talk about early. Then afterwards I went shopping because I was going out later that night with a few friends to have fun on my birthday. Of course, I was wearing something I shouldn't have. I was one of those hijabis who had on the skinny jeans short shirts, and hijab. What the hell was I thinking. I was so into my looks. I always had to have a nails done, i didnt really wear make-up, but my clothes had to be up to par. Looking back, Im just grateful Allah SWT saved me from myself and saved me from the life I was living. That's the greatest gift I have ever received. Im a completely different person now and I wouldn't go back to who I was for nothing. You'd probably have to kill me before that I ever happened.
And the older you get the wiser you become. Im also learning that no matter how many years of preparation you may have, you are still never ready when a certain situation arises. ts why Ive learned to live in the moment and just take everything as it comes. Im not a planner and never really been. I like things of the spontaneous kind. I know I still I have a lot to learn, insha'Allah with each passing year, I can take one step closer to being closer to Allah.
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
5 Things I was doing 10 years ago
- I was 12 years old, God that was a long time ago, does a 12 year old really do that much?
- I was in 7th grade behaving badly with my friends. Those were crazy good times
- Just started taking the train by myself to and from school.
- Rebelling against my mom for moving away from my dad
- Thinking I was grown since I was no longer in elementary school
- Clean, that'll forever be on my list
- Read Qur'an
- Put away my clothes that have been sitting in my suitcase for the past week.
- Ice Cream, especially Strawberry
- Applesauce, the one with cinnamon
- Chocolate Chip Cookies fresh from the oven
- Build my own house with an enclosed courtyard and indoor swimming pool
- Donate to the masjids and Islamic schools
- Save some money
- Take several vacations a year
- Give money to those who need it
- Brooklyn, NY
- Queens, NY
- North Carolina
- 5th place yet to be occupied
- Sales Specialist, Victoria's Secret
- Volunteer Office Assistant
- Sales Associate, Macy's
- Day Care Assistant
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Monday, December 15, 2008
Age: 21, bout to be 22 in a couple of days
Location: Some state between NY and VA, USA
Background: African American, Native American, and European
Spouse (if so, name and background): My teddy bear, African American
How long have you been married? Not very long say 72 hours
Kids? None right now, but I have a stepdaughter
Are you a revert? No, but somedays I feel like one.
Have you been to Hajj or Umrah? No, but one day Insha'Allah
How many masaajid have you been to? Way too many to count.
Have you ever been involved with a masjid? Not recently because I keep bouncing around too much.
Who are some of your favorite lectures by? Khalid Yasin, Yasir Birjas, Siraj Wahhaj, Yasir Qadhi
Who are some of your favorite recitors? Mishary Al-`Afasy
Some of your favorite Islamic books? The Wives of the Prophet (SAW), The Sealed Nectar, Stories of the Prophets, and of course The Qur'an.
Describe your most memorable Eid: My most memorable Eids were when I was a child. My parents would by us new clothes and we'd go to the masjid for the Eid prayer and then go out somewhere afterwards. But my favorite Eid was when they had Eid prayer in Prospect Park. To see all those Muslims praying out in the open was a sight to see. SubhanAllah. And then afterwards everyone had a picnic in the park and we got to run around and have a great time with good food and good people.
When did you first start fasting? I think when I was 11, thats when it became wajib on me
When did you start hijab? Since I was 3 years old. I would always wear a hat outisde and in the house, so my mom thought why not put a hijab on her. And Ive been wearing it ever since.
What's your usual outift like when you go out? Abaya, shayla and niqab, the basics.
What do you like about blogging? I love having a place where I can express my thoughts and feelings and reading about other people's lives and experiences. Its crazy how we all can relate to each other one way or another. I also love connecting with sisters all around the world and celebrating in that diversity.
Describe your first feelings wearing hijab
Hijab: Umm...Ive been wearing it since 3 so its become apart of me. I'd feel naked without it. I een sometimes to take it off in the house. Its stuck to me like glue.
Abayah: So this is what Ive been missing?lol. It was so comfortable and chic. Before I started wearing it, I thought you should only wear an abaya to Jumuah. But then it started to become hard to find modest clothes that would cover up certain parts. It made life so much easier. An instant outfit, throw on a matching shayla and shoes, and you're ready to go. I'll never leave home without it
Niqaab: Alhamdulillah, Ive made the decision to wear it again (well I havent really been out the house, so next time I definitely will). I had started wearing it during my first marriage because I got sick and tired of all the little comments like..hey sexy and people staring into my face. I always found niqab to be beautiful, so when I put it on I felt so good. I was in my own little world and I never felt out of place. I thought everyone else around me were the weird ones.
How do you pin your hijab? Basic shayla style. I really hate to pin my hijab under my chin because I feel like its going to choke me. The only time I pin it is if my hijab keeps coming loose or Im wearing a square style hijab, but even then I pin that on the top of my head to because my head looks funny if I leave it down.
What was on the last prayer mat you made salah on? Hmm...it was brown and I cant remember the design. I think it had two columns on it.
What's your ideal iftar? A cold glass of water and dates.
What type of adhaan really gets to you? I can still hear my dad calling the adhaan in my head, even though its been years. It use to give me the shivers. I miss it sooo much.
What's something that annoys you at Jummah: When people start talking during the khutbah or yelling at their kids. Don't you know your not suppose to talk while the khatib is speaking??
What was the last surah you read? (not recited in salah) Surah Yusuf
Do you dry yourself after wudu? Yea I always due, but then I need lotion because my face feels dry afterwards.
Do you brush your teeth for fajr salah? Sometimes.
Whats the last Islamic thing you've been involved with? I cant think of anything right now.
What was the last convention you went to? YEARS ago and I dont even remember what it was about. Thats how long its been.
Have you ever been part of an Islamic matrimonial site? Actually yes. Thats how I met my last husband. Maybe I should have stayed away. But everything happens for a reason.
What color is the rug in the masjid you usually attend? I believe it to be green or was it red. I've only been to the masjid here once.
Is the masjid you usually attend separated? It's one building where the men pray in one room and the women pray in another. And they have separate entrances which I like a lot.
Have you ever stood in a minbar? Yea when I was younger in Islamic school. They had the masjid downstairs and my friends and I were playing around and acting like we were the shaykh giving the khutbah. SubhanAllah I know we were making fun of him. May Allah forgive us.
Have you ever washed a dead body before? No, I dont plan on it. I know I'd be too scared.
What's the last thing you ate in the masjid? Candy lol.
Where's the strangest place you've seen a Muslim working? At a restaurant behind the bar. A Muslim serving alcohol, lovely.
Have you ever posted a flier in the masjid? Never did.
Rate your masjid's bathroom: Haven't seen it yet.
Have you ever used a bidet for istinja?: IS a bidet one of those spray hose things? If so yeah. In school we used them as water guns and sprayed each other with them.
What's the weirdest thing that happened to you in salah? When I was coming up from sujood, my abaya got caught under my feet and ended up ripping my abaya. Luckily it wasn't a big rip, but it sure sounded like one.
Isn't it annoying when the imam tells everyone to shut off their cell phones and someone's phone rings in the middle of salah? Yea. I actually forgot to turn my phone off last jumuah, since I came late and luckily it didnt ring until after prayer was over. Whew!!
What's some of the best halal food you've had (from a non Muslim country)? Oh God, could I name just one. There are so many in NY. Where Im at now, I havent had any yet.
What was it like when you found out skittles were haram? I couldnt let go of the bag because skittles were my favorite candy. I just ended up giving it away to someone.
What's something haram that you think most people don't know? Hmm good question. When I think of one, I'll get back on it.
What's the craziest hijabi fashion you've seen? Oh I just love the super skinny jeans with the tank top and a headscarf. So chic lol (im being sarcastic just in case it didn't come across)
Sunday, December 14, 2008
Alhamdulillah, Im feeling good and have made a lot of progress. A lot has happened this weekend, but I cant yet share it with you, but I can say it was a big transition. In time I'll say. Im finally away from my ex-husband and it feels oh so good. Im not back in NY, but somewhere else, location undisclosed. Im happy, healthy, and very positive. Surely Allah SWT has answered my du'as. Patience does pay off. My iman is so high right now and insha'Allah it stays that way. This is surely the end of a horrible chapter and the beginning of a new one. I have been able to take the time to analyze myself and what I want outta life. So now I can say Ive figured out what I wanted and my ex-husband never fit into that picture. I guess I was just in denial for a long time, trying to fix something that couldn't be fixed. Alhamdulillah, I don't regret anything that has happened, but I see it as a great blessing. I benefited both of us. We got to see what we both needed and wanted. We got to find our true selves and what made us happy and Im truly grateful for it. So its out with the old and in with the new. And oh yea, my iddah is over, so Im a free woman, for now lol. Im starting a new journey and insha'Allah you'll be there with every step of the way, insha'Allah. May Allah SWT bless you all.
Now I have a lot of catching up to with reading blogs. Hope I havent missed much lol. Love you all
Monday, December 8, 2008
I wasn't planning on going to watch the brothers sacrifice the animals, but I did. I still can't believe that I actually went and that my stomach was able to handle it. It was me and 2 other sisters and their kids. I didn't freak out as much as I thought I would. It was a bit funny at first because the sheep were running all around, trying to knock down the gate. But I actually watched it when they slit their throats. It was horrible when they were still moving around afterwards. Then they went to hacking at the sheep. I dont think that was too bad, well yeah cuz I was standing at a distance. So now I have some of it in the oven cooking and all I can hear right now is BAAAA!! lol. We gave some away already and the hubby went to go spend time with some brothers. My Eid will continue tomorrow in ATL with a few friends. Can't wait!! Insha'Allah everyone had a wonderful Eid
Sunday, December 7, 2008
Friday, December 5, 2008
Purple Fever by muslimaheyes
I absolutely love the color purple. It really compliments my skin tone. Its my happy color and Im feeling pretty purplish right now. Im not gasping for air or have severe frostbite lol. What do you think?
Abaya from al-ikhlas for $53.00 (actually all there abayas are half off until friday, just enter code "Eid2008" when checking out)
Lace gloves from forever21.com
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
Divorced women shall wait concerning themselves for three monthly periods. Nor is it lawful for them to hide what God Hath created in their wombs, if they have faith in God and the Last Day. ... 2:228
So now what about a woman who was divorce by khula?
From what I read and researched and from asking the Imam, the iddah is one menstrual cycle. Even though the scholars differ on this point, majority of them say its only one month.
It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas that the wife of Thaabit ibn Qays ended her marriage to her husband by means of khula’ at the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commanded her to observe an ‘iddah of one menstrual cycle. (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1185; Abu Dawood, 2229. Also narrated by al-Nasaa’i (3497) from the hadeeth of al-Rabee’ bint ‘Afra’. The two hadeeth were both classed as saheeh by Ibn al-Qayyim.
Here's a fatwa from islamqa.com and that I also read in Fataawa Islamiyyah give by Shaykh Ibn Baaz:
If a wife asks her husband for a khula and he accepts, how long is the waiting period?Is it irrevocable i.e can they ever re-marry?
Praise be to Allaah.
If the woman who has been divorced by khula’ is pregnant then her ‘iddah lasts until she gives birth, according to scholarly consensus. Al-Mughni, 11/227.
But if she is not pregnant, the scholars differed concerning her ‘iddah. Most of the scholars said that she should wait for three menstrual cycles, because of the general meaning of the aayah (interpretation of the meaning):
“And divorced women shall wait (as regards their marriage) for three menstrual periods”
But the correct view is that it is sufficient for a woman divorced by khula’ to wait for one menstrual cycle, because the Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told the wife of Thaabit ibn Qays, when she divorced him by khula’, to wait out the ‘iddah for one menstrual cycle. (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1185; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 946). This hadeeth refers specifically to khula’ divorce whereas the aayah quoted above speaks of divorce in general. But if she waits out an ‘iddah of three menstrual cycles that will be more complete and will be on the safe side, and will avoid an area of scholarly dispute, as some scholars say that she should wait for three menstrual cycles, based on the aayah quoted.
Fataawa al-Talaaq by Shaykh Ibn Baaz, 1/286.
There is nothing wrong with them remarrying with a new marriage contract.
And here is another one:
Does iddah imply when it is the woman who is seeking the divorce (khula).
Praise be to Allaah.
1 – Khula’ – in principle – can only occur at the request of the wife, and with the husband’s subsequent agreement to end the marriage.
2 – ‘Iddah is obligatory upon every woman who leaves her husband, or whose husband leaves her, whether the cause is talaaq (divorce), annulment of the marriage or the death of the husband, except when the divorce occurs before the marriage has been consummated, in which case the woman does not have to observe ‘iddah, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O you who believe! When you marry believing women, and then divorce them before you have sexual intercourse with them, no ‘Iddah [divorce prescribed period] have you to count in respect of them”[al-Ahzaab 33:49]
3 – With regard to the ‘iddah following khula’, the correct scholarly view is that it is one menstrual cycle, as is indicated by the Sunnah.
It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas that the wife of Thaabit ibn Qays ended her marriage to her husband by means of khula’ at the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commanded her to observe an ‘iddah of one menstrual cycle. (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1185; Abu Dawood, 2229. Also narrated by al-Nasaa’i (3497) from the hadeeth of al-Rabee’ bint ‘Afra’. The two hadeeth were both classed as saheeh by Ibn al-Qayyim, as we shall see below).
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
In the fact that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commanded the woman who ended her marriage to her husband by khula’ to observe an ‘iddah of one menstrual cycle, there is evidence for two rulings:
The first is that she does not have to wait for three menstrual cycles, rather one menstrual cycle is sufficient. Just as this is clearly the Sunnah, it was also the view of Ameer al-Mu’mineen ‘Uthmaan ibn ‘Affaan, ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab, al-Rabee’ bint Mu’awwadh and her paternal uncle, who was one of the greatest Sahaabah. We do not know of anyone who held a different opinion, as al-Layth ibn Sa’d narrated that Naafi’ the freed slave of Ibn ‘Umar heard al-Rabee’ bint Mu’awwadh ibn ‘Afra’ telling ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) that she had ended her marriage to her husband by khula’ at the time of ‘Uthmaan ibn ‘Affaan, and her paternal uncle had come to ‘Uthmaan ibn ‘Affaan and said, The daughter of Mu’awwadh ended her marriage to her husband by khula’ today, so should she move (from the marital home)? ‘Uthmaan said, She should move, and there is no inheritance between them, and she does not have to observe any ‘iddah, but she should not remarry until one menstrual cycle has passed, lest she be pregnant. ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar said: and ‘Uthmaan was the best of us and the most knowledgeable.
This view was also shared by Ishaaq ibn Raahawayh and Imaam Ahmad, according to one report narrated from him. It was also the view favoured by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah.
Those who supported this view said: this is in accordance with the principles of sharee’ah. The ‘iddah (in the case of talaaq) was made three menstrual cycles in order to lengthen the time during which the husband may take back his wife, so that the husband will have enough time to rethink the matter and to be able to take his wife back during this time. But in the case of khula’ the wife is not going to go back and the purpose is simply to establish whether she is pregnant or not, so one menstrual cycle is sufficient. They said: this does not contradict the ruling that the ‘iddah for a woman divorced by talaaq is three months. In the case of divorce the ‘iddah is the same whether it is a final talaaq or a revocable talaaq.
Zaad al-Ma’aad, 5/196, 197
Some scholars said that the ‘iddah for a woman who ends her marriage to her husband by khula’ is three menstrual cycles, as in the case of one who is divorced by talaaq, but this was expertly refuted by Imam Ibn al-Qayyim, who said:
What indicates that khula’ is not the same as talaaq is the fact that in the case of a revocable talaaq after consummation of the marriage, there are specific rulings which are not applicable in the case of khula’.
1. That the husband has more right to take her back.
2. When the husband issues a talaaq, is it counted as one of three, and after the third it is not permissible for the wife to go back to him until she has been married to another man and that marriage has been consummated.
3. ‘Iddah in the case of talaaq is three menstrual cycles.
So the ‘iddah in the case of khula’ is what is indicated by the Sunnah, namely one menstrual cycle.
And Allaah knows best.
So from my understanding, my iddah is only one month/ menstrual cycle. And Allah SWT knows best. At least that means I can move on sooner than expected. Insha'Allah, may Allah make it easy for me.
*****Edit: I spoke to my Imam and a student of knowledge, and they both said my iddah is only one menstrual cycle. That makes things a bit clearer*******
Friday, November 28, 2008
I was tagged by Umm Travis from Tea Break Thoughts. Insha'Allah I'll get to it soon. Love you all for the sake of Allah.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Saturday, November 22, 2008
I hope that I won't have to go through the heartache and pain of divorce again, that this is my final marriage. I pray to be with my husband til the day Allah calls us back to Him. And Allah knows best. For now Im still counting towards it being forever.
Like I said I never saw it coming, caught completely off guard. But I guess that's life. You get knocked down and you have the choice whether to stay down or get back up and brush yourself off and keep moving. I always try to remember what Allah SWT says in the Qur'an
Fa inna ma'al 'usri yusra
Inna ma'al 'usri yusra
Verily, along with every hardship is relief.
Verily, along with every hardship is relief. (Surat Ash-Sharh, v. 5-6)
And also the words of our beloved Prophet (SAW):
“There is nothing (in the form of trouble) that touches the believer, even the pricking of a thorn, except that Allah decrees a good for him or effaces one of his sins because of that.” (Sahih Muslim, V. 4, Hadith # 6241)
If I constantly remember that, I'll be okay. Im getting there.
Friday, November 21, 2008
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Friday, November 14, 2008
Do you like?
Denial: "This is not happening to me. It's all a
misunderstanding. It's just a midlife crisis. We can work it
Anger and resentment: "How can he [she] do this
to me? What did I ever do to deserve this? This is not fair!"
Bargaining: "If you'll stay, I'll change" or "If I agree to
do it [money, childrearing, sex, whatever] your way, can we get back
Depression: "This is really happening, I
can't do anything about it, and I don't think I can bear it."
Acceptance: "Okay, this is how it is, and I'd rather accept
it and move on than wallow in the past."
I've been throught the denial part. I think I'm still kind of denying it. Ive done the bargaining, trying to find some way to make it all work, hoping it was just phase or thinking we just needed more time.
Right now, Im at the anger and resentment part. Im just soo angry at him right now. I feel like why did you marry me in the first place if this was the case. I really feel like beating the crap outta something. May someone find me a punching bag?? Im serious!!
Im tryna keep my anger under control. A'udhu billahi minas Shaytanir Rajeem. I even started to lash out at him earlier and tried to pick a fight, maybe try to make him feel bad because of everything which wasn't a smart thing to do, but at least I apologized.
We'll see how the next stage goes.
Yâ hayyu yâ qayyüm, bi rahmatika astaghithu
(O You, the Everlasting and All-Sustainer, persistently do I invoke Your mercy)
‘Allaahumma innee ‘abduka wa ibn ‘abdika wa ibn amatika, naasiyati bi
yadika, maadin fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka, as’aluka bi kulli ismin
huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan
min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghaybi ‘andak an taj’ala al-Qur’aana
rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’a huzni wa dhahaaba hammi
(O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your female
slave, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and
Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every Name belonging to You which You
named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your
creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the unseen with You, that
You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a
departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety)
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Am I hurt? Yeah I cant lie about that because its the last thing I wanted, especially me being married before and that ending in divorce, for good reason. I know this happened for the best. At least we were honest with each other instead of carrying on acting like everything was okay when it really wasnt. I would of felt deceived then. I mean we weren't mean to each other, we never hurt each other, none of that craziness. Some things just dont work out, some people are just not meant to be together. Im accepting of what Allah has decreed even though I wish things were different. Alhamdulillah he is a great man, very respectful, religious. I have nothing bad to say about him and never will. But I guess I need more outta of marriage and he saw he wasn't giving me what I deserved. So instead of being miserable, we just let it go. There's no hard feelings at all. And we've talked through everything and everything will be find. I'll be okay. Life goes on and there's probably someone better out there for me, just haven't found them yet. Insha'Allah I will. But Im not gonna fret I put my trust in Allah. Hopefully the third time is a charm.
Saturday, November 8, 2008
Fall colors by muslimaheyes
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Waikum as Salaam,
My crazy but loving daughter,
It's good to hear from you. Everything here is the same, but I miss you. But, I'm truly glad that everything is going well. I sincerely hope that you and [hubby's name goes here] have a wonderful life together. Remember to be considerate and patience with one another. Always be truthful and talk out your problems or disagreements. And most importantly try never to go to bed angry. GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR ROAD TEST. Insha'llah you'll be a licensed CRAZY driver.
Please give [hubby's name goes here] my Salaams and to PLEASEEEEEEEE! send me at least one picture. It would be nice to see you soon, but if you don't come to NY, then maybe I might be able to make it down there. Well bye for now. Talk to you soon!
Monday, November 3, 2008
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Allah says:“The likeness of those who spend for Allah’s sake is as the likeness of a grain of corn, it grows seven ears every single ear has a hundred grains, and Allah multiplies (increases the reward of) for whom He wills, and Allah is sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knower).” (Surat Al-Baqarah.v:261)
So whatever you give in sadaqah, it'll will come back to you multiplied. I had said to myself, boy was that fast. That is the mercy of Allah. He gives to whom He wills and takes from who He wills. So why do we hold back from giving sadaqah when we know it'll be returned to as more than what we put out. We don't even have to spend a dime in order for it to be considered as charity. Your time, performing good deeds, even something as simple as a smile is sadaqah. Here are a few Ahadith about sadaqah:
The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “To smile in the company of your brother is charity. To command to do good deeds and to prevent others from doing evil is charity. To guide a person in a place where he can not get astray is charity. To remove troublesome things like thorns and bones from the road is charity. To pour water from your jug into the jug of your brother is charity. To guide a person with defective vision is charity for you.” (Bukhari)
Hudhaifah (ra) narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, "Every favor done is a Sadaqah (charity)."Abu Hurairah narrated that “Abu Dharr said to the Messenger of Allah, ‘The wealthy people have all the rewards; they pray as we pray; they fast as we fast; and they have surplus wealth which they give in charity; but we have no wealth which we may give in charity.’ Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said: ‘Abu Dharr, should I not teach you phrases by which you acquire the rank of those who excel you? No one can acquire your rank except one who acts like you.’ He said, Why not, Allah’s Messenger (SAW)? He said: ‘Exalt Allah say: "Allahu Akbar" (Allah is Most Great) after each prayer thirty-three times; and praise Him say: "Alhamdulillah" (Praise be to Allah) thirty-three times; and glorify Him say: "Subhan Allah" (Glory be to Allah) thirty-three times; and end it by saying, "La ilâha illallâhu wahdahu la shareeka lahu, lahul mulku wa lahul hamdu yuhyi wa yomeetu wa Huwa ‘ala kulli shai’in Qadeer." ( There is no god but Allah alone, He has no partner, to Him belongs the Kingdom, to Him praise is due and He has power over everything.) Your sins will be forgiven, even if they are like the foam of the sea.’” (Abu Dawud)
Abu Hurairah (RA) narrated that the Prophet (SAW) said, “Every day two angels come down from Heaven and one of them says, 'O Allah! Compensate every person who spends in Your cause’, and the other (angel) says, 'O Allah! Destroy every miser.’” (Bukhari)
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Monday, October 27, 2008
Upon you is the Taqwâ of Allâh if you are heedless..... He brings you provisions from where you do not know
So how do you fear poverty and Allâh is the Provider..... And he has provided for the birds and the fish in the sea
So whoever thinks that the provisions come with power..... Then the sparrow does not eat anything with the eagle
Then decrease from the Dunya for you do not know..... If the night comes to you will you stay until the sunrise
For how man healthy ones died without any disease..... And how many sick ones lived for a long age
So how many of the young men become and grow up laughing..... And he was sufficed with the unknown from harm and he did not know
So who has lived one thousand or two thousand..... then no doubt one day he'll walk to the Grave
"Whoever thinks about this worldly life and the hereafter would know that he will never gain either of them except by hardship. He should bear this hardship in order to gain the best and more lasting of them" -Ibnul Qayyim Al-Jawziyyah, from the book Al-Fawaa'id
Thursday, October 23, 2008
- Burned myself with hot water in the shower
- Burned my mouth with green tea, maybe next time I should of let it cool down a bit.
- Taking the laundry outta the dryer
- While cooking, TWICE, need to learn not to touch the pot in the oven without oven mits/ and watch out for boiling water.
- And the steam from the iron
Maybe Im just too hot today lol
I really need to stop messing with hot things. Luckily no burn marks.
This reminds me of the time I literallyt branded myself when I was 11 year old. I was working in my dad's restaurant making french fries. I went to take the french fries out of the deep fryer and was shaking the excess oil off of them. Outta nowhere the basket bounces off the back of the deep fryer and hits me on my chin. I tried everything, and I ended up with a scar that look exactly like the Nike logo. My brothers kept making fun of me saying that Im property of Nike now lol. I walked around for weeks with my hijab covering my chin. Now the scar is barely noticeable.
It seems I haven't learned my lesson with hot things yet.
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Now Im not saying that its bad to wear that combination, it looks pretty chic. But when you have a big head like me, white just makes it look a lot bigger and on camera it just magnifies it even more. So you could only imagine what my photo looks like. My head takes up the whole space.
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Friday, October 17, 2008
All of sudden he comes in the rooms and just gives me the biggest bear hug and I started kissing my face. I said what was that for? He says I know hugs make you happy and I wanna see you happy and I love when you are in my arms cuz that makes me happy. I wanted to cry and it put the biggest smile ever.
This is why I love him, the little things he does. He isn't perfect, no one is, but I accept him for who he is. Even thought we dont sleep in the same bed, it doesn't mean he doesn't care. Showing love means more than just saying it.
Alhamdulillah, I married the right man.
Thursday, October 16, 2008
An elegant abaya made with soft flowing poly crepe material, light weight and easy to maintain
Comes with matching chiffon shayla (appx. 23"W x 72"L) & a standard valcro closure niqab .
I love the colors of the embroidery, very colorful. Check out the seller's store here (Nabila's Collection) to see available sizes and other items. Luckily this one is a Buy Now item, so you don't have to bid on it. It's just $39.99 and shipping is just $8.95. Not bad, not bad at all.
May someone answer that because apparently the answers Ive given are completely wrong. I thought husbands and wives slept in the same bed, besides for those who have more than one wife.
Isn't that why they call it a marital bed.
Im having a hard time with it, Im trying to be an obedient wife and understand, but its hard because it's making me upset. And no matter how much I try to say so, I feel like its falling on deaf ears. He says that Im a violent sleeper, which I know Im not because my ex-husband slept with me in the same bed and never ever complained. And that I disturb his sleep and I dont see how. He doesn't like for me to touch him while he sleeps, which I found out the hard way the other night, which doesn't bother me too much but everything else does. Maybe Im the wrong one, but Im so confused about it.
A husband is really only suppose to separate from his wife in their bed if he is angry at her, but this isn't the case. He said he isn't angry at me, so what's the problem.
Sorry for rambling but Im just a bit confused by it all and don't know what to do? Im trying to win his affection, I do everything that a wife is suppose to do, what is it that Im not doing?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
I just started using this stuff and I'm in love. Ive been using dial as long as I remember, mainly the bar soap because it's antibacterial. The only thing about antibacterial soaps, they sucked the moisture right outta my skin. But regualr beauty bars sometimes would irritate my skin. Now Ive found something that is the best of both, it contains both antibacterial and moisturizing ingredients. I swear my skin has never felt cleaner or smoother and Ive tried alot of other stuff as well. And the smell is lovely. For some reason I have thing with jasmine. Since my name is yasmin(arabic for jasmine flower) I have an addiction to jasmine, weird connection right?
My fave for a long time, Miss Dior Cherie by Dior, of course. I love the very feminine and romatic smell it has. Top notes are wild strawberry leaves and green tangerine. The heart features caramel popcorns surrounded by violets, wild strawberry, and pink jasmine( gotta love that jasmine). The base is created of fresh patchouli leaves and crystalline musk. Don't you just love the bottle. I have a thing for pretty bottles. This is the original one. They have just recently put ot Miss Dior Cherie Eau de Printemps. I don't like it that much, has a bit more of an orangey smell which I don't like. This is more of a fall/winter fragrance but hey in the house, it can be any season you want.
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
|You Are Having a Brown Day|
You're getting done what needs to be done. And you're not too worried about how you're feeling.
While you're all business, you are still warm and approachable.
You are busy, but you're not too busy for a little fun down time.
Okay this quiz is an absolute lie, normal, serious self, not worried about how I feel, yea right. It's like this test was mainly made for happy people because the choices were all choices like content, peaceful, confident, nothing like angry, pissed, underweather. What happened to the angry people choices. I'm feeling a bit more on the red side. They need to write a disclaimer/warning for this quiz:-
WARNING. Take this quiz only if you are feeling normally happy and content. Do not take this quiz if you show any signs of depression, anger, violence, emotional upset, or any other emotion besides happy. Failure to do so might end up with false results and may result in you cursing us. We are not responsible for any ill feelings you may have for you have been forwarned.
I know it's only a quiz and what's the probability of it accurately telling you how you feel? Just felt like letting off a little steam, so Im taking it out on the quiz. Better than taking it out on a person cuz that won't be pretty. But at least it makes wanna get a mood ring. Don't you remember those?
Ok let me stop before this post ends up sounding crazier than it already does.
Monday, October 13, 2008
I don't know Im just feeling blah right now, Ive been feeling that way for the past 2 days. You think I should be in that whole newlywed marital bliss but its like been there done that.
Im just not feeling myself especially today. Im usually outgoing, smiley, laughing but today I dont wanna do any of that. Im probably moping about what I don't know. I feel sick, my head is hurting, Im feeling awfully tired, I don't have an appetite for anything, my stomach is hurting, I feel hormonal, and it's not that time of the month. Maybe I should see a psychologist, maybe there's something wrong or maybe its just all in my head. I feel so run down.
Sorry for all the rambling but this the one place I feel I can let out my feelings and emotions. Insha'Allah I'll feel better.
Friday, October 10, 2008
Thursday, October 9, 2008
The author is the christian mother whose daughter converted to Islam, In the book she explores the path that American Christian woman have taken towards Islam. I really loved the book because it was very objective; the author was honest with her feelings but yet never criticized anyone for their beliefs. It's very relatable and a lot the stories are inspiring. I also love how it tells bothe sides of the stories, first from the daughters and then how their families felt. So you get a true understanding of the whole picture. It even includes the survey that the author had sent out to help compile the book. I highly suggest it to all muslim and non-muslims alike, especially those who are new reverts, it can serve as a guideline and inspiration of how to deal with the struggles you might face with your families.
Here is the description on the back cover:-
The rapid growth of Islam in America is a current phenomenon. Why are our American daughters leaving their Christian bacgrounds and choosing Islam, a religion that requires discipline, submission, and being "different?"
Daughters of Another Path reveals some of the resons and thought processes that led these daughters into a new journey in their spiritual life.
You will experience some of the hurt and frustratuon of paretns and families as they deal with their daughters' choosing another path.
Yet it is a heartwarming book by a non-Muslim mother telling her story of reconciliation with her own daughter's conversion to Islam and includes stories of fifty-three other American women who have chosen Islam.
Happy Reading :)
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Monday, October 6, 2008
Sunday, October 5, 2008
This one is absolutely pretty. It's from Tahura.com. What I love about tahura is that they custom make the abaya for you. You choose the measurements, the color of the designs (they have a long list of colors), and whether you want the abaya open or closed. That's just unbelievabley awesome. I like the colors the chose above, but I would probably do white and another neutral.
Also from tahura, this is my favorite out of all of them. Too bad it's not made out of the material display. As it says on the website satin material in pictured abaya for iluustration purposes only. All abayas will be cut from the normal 'softtouch' tahura abaya material. It would be nice if they did, but it's still beautiful. Im gonna order it as is.
For my satin craving, this abaya from al-hijaab is so beautiful. It looks too nice for everyday, but for those days I just wanna look glam and chic, this will do the trick. And the plus side, it comes with the matching shayla FREE!!!! That makes my day lol.