Friday, November 28, 2008
I was tagged by Umm Travis from Tea Break Thoughts. Insha'Allah I'll get to it soon. Love you all for the sake of Allah.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Saturday, November 22, 2008
I hope that I won't have to go through the heartache and pain of divorce again, that this is my final marriage. I pray to be with my husband til the day Allah calls us back to Him. And Allah knows best. For now Im still counting towards it being forever.
Like I said I never saw it coming, caught completely off guard. But I guess that's life. You get knocked down and you have the choice whether to stay down or get back up and brush yourself off and keep moving. I always try to remember what Allah SWT says in the Qur'an
Fa inna ma'al 'usri yusra
Inna ma'al 'usri yusra
Verily, along with every hardship is relief.
Verily, along with every hardship is relief. (Surat Ash-Sharh, v. 5-6)
And also the words of our beloved Prophet (SAW):
“There is nothing (in the form of trouble) that touches the believer, even the pricking of a thorn, except that Allah decrees a good for him or effaces one of his sins because of that.” (Sahih Muslim, V. 4, Hadith # 6241)
If I constantly remember that, I'll be okay. Im getting there.
Friday, November 21, 2008
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Friday, November 14, 2008
Do you like?
Denial: "This is not happening to me. It's all a
misunderstanding. It's just a midlife crisis. We can work it
Anger and resentment: "How can he [she] do this
to me? What did I ever do to deserve this? This is not fair!"
Bargaining: "If you'll stay, I'll change" or "If I agree to
do it [money, childrearing, sex, whatever] your way, can we get back
Depression: "This is really happening, I
can't do anything about it, and I don't think I can bear it."
Acceptance: "Okay, this is how it is, and I'd rather accept
it and move on than wallow in the past."
I've been throught the denial part. I think I'm still kind of denying it. Ive done the bargaining, trying to find some way to make it all work, hoping it was just phase or thinking we just needed more time.
Right now, Im at the anger and resentment part. Im just soo angry at him right now. I feel like why did you marry me in the first place if this was the case. I really feel like beating the crap outta something. May someone find me a punching bag?? Im serious!!
Im tryna keep my anger under control. A'udhu billahi minas Shaytanir Rajeem. I even started to lash out at him earlier and tried to pick a fight, maybe try to make him feel bad because of everything which wasn't a smart thing to do, but at least I apologized.
We'll see how the next stage goes.
Yâ hayyu yâ qayyüm, bi rahmatika astaghithu
(O You, the Everlasting and All-Sustainer, persistently do I invoke Your mercy)
‘Allaahumma innee ‘abduka wa ibn ‘abdika wa ibn amatika, naasiyati bi
yadika, maadin fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka, as’aluka bi kulli ismin
huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan
min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghaybi ‘andak an taj’ala al-Qur’aana
rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’a huzni wa dhahaaba hammi
(O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your female
slave, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and
Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every Name belonging to You which You
named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your
creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the unseen with You, that
You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a
departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety)
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Am I hurt? Yeah I cant lie about that because its the last thing I wanted, especially me being married before and that ending in divorce, for good reason. I know this happened for the best. At least we were honest with each other instead of carrying on acting like everything was okay when it really wasnt. I would of felt deceived then. I mean we weren't mean to each other, we never hurt each other, none of that craziness. Some things just dont work out, some people are just not meant to be together. Im accepting of what Allah has decreed even though I wish things were different. Alhamdulillah he is a great man, very respectful, religious. I have nothing bad to say about him and never will. But I guess I need more outta of marriage and he saw he wasn't giving me what I deserved. So instead of being miserable, we just let it go. There's no hard feelings at all. And we've talked through everything and everything will be find. I'll be okay. Life goes on and there's probably someone better out there for me, just haven't found them yet. Insha'Allah I will. But Im not gonna fret I put my trust in Allah. Hopefully the third time is a charm.
Saturday, November 8, 2008
Fall colors by muslimaheyes
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Waikum as Salaam,
My crazy but loving daughter,
It's good to hear from you. Everything here is the same, but I miss you. But, I'm truly glad that everything is going well. I sincerely hope that you and [hubby's name goes here] have a wonderful life together. Remember to be considerate and patience with one another. Always be truthful and talk out your problems or disagreements. And most importantly try never to go to bed angry. GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR ROAD TEST. Insha'llah you'll be a licensed CRAZY driver.
Please give [hubby's name goes here] my Salaams and to PLEASEEEEEEEE! send me at least one picture. It would be nice to see you soon, but if you don't come to NY, then maybe I might be able to make it down there. Well bye for now. Talk to you soon!
Monday, November 3, 2008
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Allah says:“The likeness of those who spend for Allah’s sake is as the likeness of a grain of corn, it grows seven ears every single ear has a hundred grains, and Allah multiplies (increases the reward of) for whom He wills, and Allah is sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knower).” (Surat Al-Baqarah.v:261)
So whatever you give in sadaqah, it'll will come back to you multiplied. I had said to myself, boy was that fast. That is the mercy of Allah. He gives to whom He wills and takes from who He wills. So why do we hold back from giving sadaqah when we know it'll be returned to as more than what we put out. We don't even have to spend a dime in order for it to be considered as charity. Your time, performing good deeds, even something as simple as a smile is sadaqah. Here are a few Ahadith about sadaqah:
The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “To smile in the company of your brother is charity. To command to do good deeds and to prevent others from doing evil is charity. To guide a person in a place where he can not get astray is charity. To remove troublesome things like thorns and bones from the road is charity. To pour water from your jug into the jug of your brother is charity. To guide a person with defective vision is charity for you.” (Bukhari)
Hudhaifah (ra) narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, "Every favor done is a Sadaqah (charity)."Abu Hurairah narrated that “Abu Dharr said to the Messenger of Allah, ‘The wealthy people have all the rewards; they pray as we pray; they fast as we fast; and they have surplus wealth which they give in charity; but we have no wealth which we may give in charity.’ Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said: ‘Abu Dharr, should I not teach you phrases by which you acquire the rank of those who excel you? No one can acquire your rank except one who acts like you.’ He said, Why not, Allah’s Messenger (SAW)? He said: ‘Exalt Allah say: "Allahu Akbar" (Allah is Most Great) after each prayer thirty-three times; and praise Him say: "Alhamdulillah" (Praise be to Allah) thirty-three times; and glorify Him say: "Subhan Allah" (Glory be to Allah) thirty-three times; and end it by saying, "La ilâha illallâhu wahdahu la shareeka lahu, lahul mulku wa lahul hamdu yuhyi wa yomeetu wa Huwa ‘ala kulli shai’in Qadeer." ( There is no god but Allah alone, He has no partner, to Him belongs the Kingdom, to Him praise is due and He has power over everything.) Your sins will be forgiven, even if they are like the foam of the sea.’” (Abu Dawud)
Abu Hurairah (RA) narrated that the Prophet (SAW) said, “Every day two angels come down from Heaven and one of them says, 'O Allah! Compensate every person who spends in Your cause’, and the other (angel) says, 'O Allah! Destroy every miser.’” (Bukhari)