Alhamdulillah, today makes a month that Ive been married. It seems like only yesterday I got married. So far it's been a good experience and something that has made me grow a bit more as a person. Being able to share my life and dreams with someone else, always having someone there to talk to is such an amazing feeling. A feeling that I thought I would never be able to feel after my last marriage.
My last marriage was such a struggle, a struggle to keep my head above water. All it was doing was pulling me down so far to the point I was so ready to give up and drown me. I'm just so glad to be away from that, to get a new fresh start with someone who was truly ready to be married and share his life with me. I feel amazingly blessed. Allah has blessed me with so much that Im grateful for. When things seemed to be going downhill or I lost my sense of direction, Allah has kept me guided. Just looking back a month or two til now, I really see that patience really pays off. Even when there seems like all hope is lost, it never is. I realize you go through things to make you stronger and sometimes what you think is best for you really isn't. Allah knows what is best for you and Ive learned to put my complete trust in Him because he will never lead me astray.
I may be young but Ive definitely been through a lot and learned a lot. Marriage isn't easy, it takes a lot of work and commitment,but it surely is fulfilling. You have good days and you have bad days, but at the end of the day what matters is that you love that person and they make you happy. To be able to sit back and just think of what makes that person wonderful and to know that they care about you makes it a little easier. I think the secret to making a marriage successful is to keep it fresh. Always trying new things, even though routine is helpful, but its always those little surprises that make the day. And also knowing that marriage is a partnership and not a dictatorship. You both need to work together in order to make it work. And of course never forgetting about Allah. That should always be the first thing, knowing that Allah brought you two together and put love and mercy between each other.
Insha'Allah, I hope that I won't have to go through the heartache and pain of divorce again, that this is my final marriage. I pray to be with my husband til the day Allah calls us back to Him. And Allah knows best. For now Im still counting towards it being forever.